Women take note, men breathe a sigh of relief - it turns out that most men consume porn; and it makes no difference to their relationships with women.
A 2-year Canadian study suggests that watching porn flicks merely helps to sate a man's appetite for 'fringe fantasy', and they enjoy perfectly 'normal' sex and dating outside of that.
It's great news for the many adult dating sites, who are sometimes unfairly accused of setting up unrealistic expectations of what people should expect from sex. The professor who carried out the research (poor chap) likens those sorts of accusations to saying 'that vodka ads lead to alcoholism.
The professor surveyed 20 heterosexual men in-depth, all of whom said that they consume porn online, with single men viewing twice as much as those who are dating or in long-term relationships.
It seems that watching pornographic material is mostly a solitary hobby, and mostly the men sped through any scenes of violence, which they found distasteful.
It makes sense that most men search for X-rated videos and pornographic material on the internet. Given the rise of internet dating, and the number of online dating and adult dating sites available, it seems logical that men would search for sexual relief in the same domain.
But it's interesting to note how the men felt that their consumption of porn was entirely separate to their actual sex lives. The study suggests that some men use it to get rid of sexual impulses that they don't want in their 'real' lives; that it's a cathartic, healthy way of 'purging themselves' so that they can enjoy a committed sexual relationship with a woman.
One chap told the professor that he enjoyed fantasizing about having an orgy, but when he was confronted with the actual possibility, he was completely unable to perform.
Similarly, many people use adult dating sites or dating services just to browse the 'possibilities', even though they're happily dating somebody. It doesn't mean they want to cheat on their partner, it's that they're fulfilling a fantasy of 'being able to', even though they don't want to take their step in their real lives.
So, hats off to the Canadian professor who has seen porn for what it is - a healthy, normal part of a man's sex life, and not the precursor to sexual deviancy.